Friday, October 3, 2014

Monking Around

The visit by the Drepung Monks has ended -- at least in a temporal sense. But their visit is still with me in my thoughts. I am finding the experience to have "remnant effects" -- as many experiences do; otherwise, experiences would not be either instructive or transformative. But there was something about their presence that affected me in unusual ways. As I expressed to a friend, the leader of the delegation, Geshe Tsewang Thinley, affected me in a unique way in the impressions he made with the brevity of his presence.

Looking back on my anticipation of their arrival, I admit to some anxiety. "Will we be able to communicate?" "Will we provide ample resources for their stay?" "Will we gather enough of an audience to make their visit productive?" Not having attempted such a project before, I realized that we would be flying by the seat of our pants and that lots of volunteer help would be needed.

Thankfully, we had a number of volunteers step forward, one of which -- Armene B -- offered planning, volunteer coordination and hosting of the monks during their stay. Other volunteers provided lunch on each of the days, some provided contributions to cover food purchases and restaurant visits. And, of course, many people participated in the events, made cash contributions to their monastery and purchased products to support their efforts.  Thank you, one and all, for your support of their visit. I am told that their stay was very worthwhile. I know our community has been blessed in obvious and subtle ways -- even in ways not yet realized.

As I expressed in the closing ceremony on Monday night, I felt a deep connection with the one monk with which I spent the most time, Geshe la ("Geshe" indicates his level of attainment within the monastic community, "la" is an honorific). I said, "He has inspired me to do better." To do better -- in my relationships, in my ministerial work and in my personal spiritual work. He expressed a presence I can imagine Jesus expressed, each being a Light of the World.

In fact, each of the monks were Lights, unique in their expression, their individual skills and their personality. Some were more outgoing than others but each seemingly present in their interaction with each other and with those around them. They were focused in their work on their shared effort of the sand mandala and they were joyful in their leisure. During their lunch on the last day, they were comfortable enough to "let their hair down" and share lots of laughter about an interaction they had had with one in our community the prior evening (that's where the phrase "monking around" arose). While I am unable to appreciate what was so hilarious about that interaction (I was told they laughing about the person greeting them with "good morning" when it was late in the evening), they were genuinely entertained by it.  

Here were six people, steeped in their contemplative tradition, expressing their humanity in the most joyous ways. And present on Facebook (at least two of them, each of which has "friended" me)! Perhaps the most startling realization for me was their ever-present smartphone -- when they weren't kneeling over the sand painting, it was as likely as not they were on the internet, perhaps referring to a Tibetan-English dictionary, listening to podcasts in Tibetan, communicating with others (I'm guessing back at the monastery in India), or browsing the internet! Now I feel vindicated for my internet-centric lifestyle. :)

Monday, August 25, 2014

Betrayal to Blessing

We often look upon relationships as either "good" or "bad", "useful" or "wasted". We might view them as constructive or destructive, fulfilling or detrimental, often determining their value by the pleasure we seem to derive from them. It's only human nature to avoid those that seem to be bad, wasted, destructive or detrimental. Life is too short, right?

But what if the true purpose of every relationship has nothing to do with our human nature and everything to do with our divine nature? If so, we might find it useful to set aside our "human nature" criteria and adopt, instead, "divine nature" criteria. Without declaring that the Voice of God speaks through me (although I believe that is the case for all of us when we set our ego* aside), let's speculate as to what the "divine nature" criteria might be.

When Jesus is quoted as saying "the kingdom of God is in the midst of you" (Luke 17:21), I read that as meaning the awareness of God Presence is possible for each and every one of us, in which our nature is seeing with the eyes of God, seeing with the eyes of unconditional love. To realize that elevated state requires that we look upon our moment with the eyes of unconditional love. With that perspective, the criteria of "divine nature" reveal how to elevate our perspective to see and embrace more fully the God Presence in the moment. 

Even the relationships which are punctuated with lies or betrayals can be seen for what they are -- relationships that had, for a moment (or longer), participants that forgot their true nature, their divine nature. If we avoid or reject those relationships because of the lapse of awareness of one or more of the participants, we are declaring that nothing less than perfection in every relationship is acceptable. When is that achieved and where is the opportunity for growth?

At the same time, those "negative relationships" can also be seen as great opportunities for learning and for practice. When one can see beyond the feeling of being attacked (the ego's "proof" of our vulnerability and separation from each other and from God), we have made great progress is seeing with the eyes of unconditional love. In fact, when we view each relationship as a "trip to the gym", we can see the negative relationships as those exercises that challenge us the most and from which our greatest strength is gained; the positive relationships might be seen as a soak in the sauna, healing and nurturing but, by themselves, stimulating little gain in power. 

We don't have to search out those negative relationships but when they show up, we can celebrate! There are bountiful blessings hidden within them.

* from A Course in Miracles: ego -- that aspect of consciousness that insists upon separation from each other and from God